News flash: If you are neither on, nor in need of, attention-deficit medication… you’re probably at a serious disadvantage marketing your business online.
I’m not judging anyone here — I’m just making an observation.
A few weeks ago, I was sitting at a big sloppy banquet hosted by one of the top online entrepreneurs. Very nice restaurant, and we had a back room all to ourselves.
Seated around me were a dozen other rich, respected online entrepreneurs — mostly men in their thirties, and one or two women in the same age group. Everywhere you turned, there was another fun and invigorating conversation going on.
I really like my colleagues in the online marketing world. And I appreciate the fact that, while I’m much older (and I’ve been around the block about a thousand more times), we all have so much in common that we treat each other like equals.
Which mostly means we engage freely in totally uncensored conversations that are hilarious, revealing, and often amazingly profitable.
At this particular dinner, however, I had a sudden realization… and was able to field-test it immediately with the people sitting around me.
That realization was this: While we have much in common as marketers and advertisers and just being cutting-edge creative types… we ALSO share another trait that I almost NEVER used to see in the pre-Web days of direct response advertising.
Once I tell you what this trait is, it will seem obvious.
But few of us have ever put a finger on it before.
Wanna guess what this trait is that so many online entrepreneurs share?
It’s…
… being a misfit.
And not just a run-of-the-mill misfit, either.
I started asking my table-mates, point blank, if they had ever been diagnosed with ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder), OCD (obsessive/compulsive disorder), or any of the other less common “social outsider” categories that doctors seem to love using to catalog people.
Everyone started sharing their private histories… and it was eye-opening.
I’m not gonna name names here. (Insiders will probably be able to guess who I’m talking about… but then, they probably also share the same diagnosis.)
I just think this is an important insight to online marketing success.
There were brilliant people at this table… and at least one honest genius, IQ-wise. There were technical wizards, stunningly talented thinkers, writers with breathtaking talent, and lots of super-savvy guys who had learned to “game” the online system so massive quantities of moolah flowed in their direction.
Often with little extra work.
And yet, in the offline world, nearly all of them would be STRUGGLING to hold down a regular job… or, in some cases, possibly forced out of “polite” socieity altogether.
These people were misfits. Literally, they didn’t FIT in the mainstream world very well at all.
Some of the brightest ones had common memories of being forced into “special needs” classes in school. Many were dropouts, because their intelligence was overlooked and understimulated.
For the ones who were most successful… the birth of the Web presented SALVATION.
Many started online as gamers — staying up late (or for days at a time) dodging dragons and shooting aliens, sharing the new fantasy worlds with an ever-growing community of other misfits. They got to know each other, started exploring the capitalist possibilities of the Web, and traded in games for marketing.
While the Web frightened and confused traditional businesses, these younger guys were fearless about code, software, building sites and everything else in the new virtual world-wide city center.
I got into freelance copywriting because I was a notoriously bad fit in the corporate world. I can’t stand wearing ties (they literally chafe my neck), and I’m a flagrant night owl — which, I have now discovered, is something else I share with many of the best online entrepreneurs out there.
As far as I know, I do not have any attention deficit problems… yet, I can enjoy long and chaotic conversations with the worst of them, and I even enjoy the non-linear thinking.
So, I dunno, maybe I’m ADHD, too. Can you have a mild case of it?
Actually, I kinda doubt it really exists. Getting to know these brilliant, wacky online entrepreneurs leads me to believe that — in the bad old pre-Web days — there simply wasn’t a place for them.
“Normal” society hates misfits, cuz we make uptight people uncomfortable. (I’ve been fired from almost every “real” job I’ve ever had.) (With good reason, too — I refused to play by stupid rules, and I still consider the REAL insane people to be the ones who surrender their individuality to The Man for a paycheck.)
The Web has nurtured a fabulous explosion of entrepreneurial opportunity… and now smart misfits can work their own hours, dressed however they like, from chaotic home offices, doing whatever funky project they dream up.
You can make your own rules, and change them daily. You can obsess to your heart’s content, or be as lazy and distracted as you like (once you’ve set your systems in place) and still rake it in.
The entire playing field has changed, drastically. In traditional corporate environments, the people who rise to positions of authority and power (and high salaries) are often the jerks who know how to play “the game” at work. Kiss ass, take credit for other people’s efforts, avoid responsibility for failure, stab co-workers in the back, etc.
The biz-as-usual soap opera.
Online, however, you’re essentially naked except for your brain. There’s no corporate game to play… and none of the skills that normally shoot a person up the ladder are relevant.
Online, being good looking, or suave, or a good worker, or even likeable won’t win you any victories.
Online, the misfits have the advantage. They can create their own attention paradigms, set their own standards, and take their biz directly to people who want what they offer… with nary an intervening newspaper, magazine, television standards and practices attorney, politician, store shelf position, billboard or sweet talking salesman to harsh anyone’s mellow.
I don’t know if anyone else has fully understood the implications here. Maybe I’m slow getting on the band wagon… but the other entrepreneurs I’ve talked to have all agreed that no one’s really noticed how many true misfits there are at the top of the online world.
There’s room for everybody, of course.
But I think I now see why so many wannabe entrepreneurs I counsel are having trouble getting traction onine — they need to get in touch with their Inner Misfit.
It’s a brave new world… and I, for one, welcome it.
Misfits of the world, unite!
And stay frosty,
John Carlton
www.marketingreble.com
"11 Really Stupid Blunders You're Making With Your Biz & Career Right Now."
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I can’t remember what it’s like to work a job and the longest I ever lasted in a full time job was 12 months…even then I was moved from one shop to another shop as an alternative to firing me because I was so young (17).
Most of my millionaire friends are nuts too.
In fact if you’re “normal” I start to wonder what’s wrong with you.
“Normal” people work jobs their whole lives, complaining constantly about how hard it is…and then live in near poverty when they retire.
Screw being normal.
There’s an old story of a millionaire who had a jar of peanuts in water.
He’d shake up those peanuts and after a while he’d ask what the jar of floating peanuts told you.
“Only the NUTS float to the top.”
Kindest regards,
Andrew Cavanagh
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Great article John! I can attest to the fact that those in my network are all “misfits”… you know who you are.
That makes me feel better about having been diagnosed with an “other than specified” personality disorder. The shrink had to make up a new category to get the diagnosis he was looking for.
“Misfit” sounds better than “other than specified.” If anyone asks, I’ll tell them I have the misfit personality disorder.
John,
Very true, my friend. I’m so ADHD that I even made a business from it! What other linear-thinking people might see as weaknesses, I only see as strengths, and the Internet has helped me to prove it.
Raking in the dough helping people to do what I do isn’t such a bad job, especially since I can do it from my very chaotic office.
Be well!
Oh the misfit stories I could tell, and some of them
include Mr. Carlton.
I’m damn glad your not normal John.
Lovely post! I really enjoyed it and remember the first time I had that revelation as well. It was at a fairly large networking event and the room had split into two distinct groups.
The normal people who wanted to be polite and hold their proverbial pinky up while drinking…and the REST of us. Having fun. What the other group never realized was that we were really the only ones making emotional connections in the room.
Those emotional connections? They’re what networking is all about!
Thanks again for a great post.
“No one normal ever ran a successful company” – Jennifer G.
My name is Laura, and I’m a misfit. I’m glad I’m not alone. You’ve inspired me to write a post about this at my blog. Thanks for the boost!
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I would not label myself as a misfit. It’s just that the whole rest of the world isn’t fit for me!
Thank you, John, for clarifying for me. Now I know that I am back on the right path for my life. If you are familiar with the book about “The Marginal Man” in the african countries where apartheid was practiced, then you will understand just how much of a misfit I have always been. Some thiry years ago Dr. K Bradford Brown, my counselor and mentor at the time, told me I was a marginal woman. He defined that for me and added that, perhaps, some day, the females of our world, and maybe the business world, would come to value the way I think. Until then I was/am doomed to be one woman who just didn’t fit into either the corporate world of men or the protected homemaker world of women. Today, thankfully, the world of women has changed somewhat. I still don’t fit. I have not adopted the corporate dress code and was criticized in my last “real” job for going shoeless in my office.
I have lots of information about working online. Once I figure it all out, I think I can find my niche in the online entrepreneurial world. I know that working for others, especially when there are lots of “rules” to follow just doesn’t work for me. I was fired from my last job and not hired for another one recently because I found creative ways to use a computer to do my work or my proposed work more quickly and better. Hmmmm.
Peace and Love to you and yours,
Jemyl
Thank you, John, for clarifying for me. Now I know that I am back on the right path for my life. If you are familiar with the book about “The Marginal Man” in the african countries where apartheid was practiced, then you will understand just how much of a misfit I have always been. Some thiry years ago Dr. K Bradford Brown, my counselor and mentor at the time, told me I was a marginal woman. He defined that for me and added that, perhaps, some day, the females of our world, and maybe the business world, would come to value the way I think. Until then I was/am doomed to be one woman who just didn’t fit into either the corporate world of men or the protected homemaker world of women. Today, thankfully, the world of women has changed somewhat. I still don’t fit. I have not adopted the corporate dress code and was criticized in my last “real” job for going shoeless in my office.
I have lots of information about working online. Once I figure it all out, I think I can find my niche in the online entrepreneurial world. I know that working for others, especially when there are lots of “rules” to follow just doesn’t work for me. I was fired from my last job and not hired for another one recently because I found creative ways to use a computer to do my work or my proposed work more quickly and better. Hmmmm.
Peace and Love to you and yours,
Jemyl
Thank you, John, for clarifying for me. Now I know that I am back on the right path for my life. If you are familiar with the book about “The Marginal Man” in the african countries where apartheid was practiced, then you will understand just how much of a misfit I have always been. Some thiry years ago Dr. K Bradford Brown, my counselor and mentor at the time, told me I was a marginal woman. He defined that for me and added that, perhaps, some day, the females of our world, and maybe the business world, would come to value the way I think. Until then I was/am doomed to be one woman who just didn’t fit into either the corporate world of men or the protected homemaker world of women. Today, thankfully, the world of women has changed somewhat. I still don’t fit. I have not adopted the corporate dress code and was criticized in my last “real” job for going shoeless in my office.
I have lots of information about working online. Once I figure it all out, I think I can find my niche in the online entrepreneurial world. I know that working for others, especially when there are lots of “rules” to follow just doesn’t work for me. I was fired from my last job and not hired for another one recently because I found creative ways to use a computer to do my work or my proposed work more quickly and better. Hmmmm.
Peace and Love to you and yours,
Jemyl
One of the greatest misfit is Bill Gates. He does not fit in the mold of most our thinking, but these and their likes are also millionaires today.
Without misfits, we might all end up like Ward & June Cleaver.
Gary Bacchetti
The Gentle Mentor
haha, here we come again… Guys , i mean guys who try to earn money from f.ing MISFITs, why don’t stop doing this and mocking at us. John no offense but how are you trying to solve misfit problem???